08; My thoughts about the Ring of Submission

Ring of Submission

Love leads to devotion leads to honesty leads to obedience which leads to surrender which leads back to greater love completes the circle.

At the beginning

Love is the very base of every relationship. Without it no relation will work out. One has to realize that love is no one way. It has to be given and received in order to make the relation satisfactory to all parties.

Going further

Most people are just fine with love as it is. They don´t need or want more or even know there is more. In a D/s relationship however, devotion plays a very important role. A slave has to devote herself to serve her mistress, while the mistress is responsible for the slave.

Always tell the truth

In my opinion honesty is the most valuable part of the ring. I think it is no coincidence that it is in the middle of the ring, holding it together. A slave must never lie to her mistress. Next to honesty there is justness. Even a slave deserves to be treated fairly and with respect. Any good mistress will acknowledge this fact to strengthen the bond between herself and the slave.

Obey your mistress

Nothing brings more shame upon a mistress then a disobedient slave. A slave has to obey her mistress´s orders to the letter. If she fails to do so she will be punished. That is the way of things in a D/s relationship. In case of emergency a slave is free to make use of a safeword provided by her mistress. When the safeword is used, the mistress will stop whatever she is doing and ask the slave about her objections. The safeword is a security option only and should not be used lightheaded.

Bow to your mistress

Any slave will gladly surrender to a mistress which she loves and trusts. The mistress will be in complete control of her slave and her slave’s fate. It would seem the slave has given up her freedom to her mistress but this is only partially true. Of course it´s up to the mistress but even a slave can have much freedom if granted. Much more important are the protection and security which the slave gets in return from her mistress.

Full circle

Any properly made step in the ring of submission leads to even greater love. One should not think this is the end or some goal of the ring which in my opinion turns out to be more like an endless coil. Love is an infinite feeling that can expand endlessly. Thus the circle will never end.